How To Be a Good Ally

Allies are great.

They help us fight for equality and often offer love and support as friends, family members, and significant others. Where do you start? Here’s how I think you can be a good ally:

  1. Listen – Listen to those in the LGBTQ+ community and don’t talk over us. Wait for your time to talk and recognize when your opinion isn’t needed. Let people tell you what they need, instead of assuming. Listen to how your friend/partner/family member feels and what they need from you. An open mind and listening ears goes a long way, especially when someone is trying to figure things out or has just come out.
  2. Educate- Educated yourself about the community, all of the community. Learn different sexualities, genders, and romantic identities. Learn about LGBTQ+ issues and stay up to date on news that involves the community. Try to educate others, especially when other people are saying bigoted things or using slurs.
  3.  Love- Everyone just wants to be loved. Respond to the LGBTQ+ people in your life with love even when you don’t understand what they’re going through. There’s no way you’ll be able to understand it all, but listening to them and loving them will make a huge difference.
  4.  Vote- Voting is one of the biggest ways, in my opinion, that you can help our community. Vote against discriminatory laws, and vote for people who are going to bring about positive change. Do not stand idly by while bigoted people try to attack our community, especially right now.
  5. Respect- Respect everyone’s identity. Use the correct pronouns and preferred name for everyone you meet. Respect that someone may not be open to talking about their sexuality or gender, or being queer in general.

 

What did I miss? How can someone be a good ally to you?

 

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Texas Anti-LGBTQ+ Laws

Texas is trying to put a series of anti-LGBTQ+ laws in place that are detrimental to the queer community.

The first one is a “bathroom bill” similar to one passed in  North Carolina. We fought North Carolina, and unfortunately have yet to win that battle. These so called “bathroom bills” are absolutely ridiculous and aren’t protecting anyone. They’re transphobic and only cause more problems. How do you tell someone who presents femininely and identifies as a woman to use the men’s restroom because she was assigned male at birth? That only puts her in danger, and criminalizes her gender. It doesn’t matter if the trans person “passes” or not, they have the right to use the bathroom that corresponds with their gender.

Other legislation is being reviewed that lets teachers out students to their parents. This is so harmful! Suicide rates of LGBTQ+ are much higher than those of non-lgbt youth, and students who have unsupportive families only have an even high chance of self-harm and suicide. Many students don’t come out at home because they know it isn’t safe, but they are out as school and see it as a safe haven. Parents don’t get to know every piece of information about their children just because they are the parents. Some people are terrible parents and we should be protecting our  LGBTQ youth.

If you thought those were bad, just wait there’s more! They’re looking into making it legal to refuse service to someone based off their sexual orientation or gender identity and making it legal to refuse marriage licenses based off “religious beliefs.” That is complete and utter bullshit. You can’t break federal law because of religious beliefs. They already did this with Kim Davis and she ended up getting arrested, but with our mess of a government who knows what will happen.  I don’t believe being homophobic is a religious belief, but thats another topic for another time.

I’m hoping and praying that these things don’t pass, but I wouldn’t be surprised if at least a few of them did. Lots of celebrities are standing up against these laws, and I suspect if they pass they will pull their concerts and shows like they did in NC. South by South West is coming up and if people pull out, Texas could potentially lose millions of dollars.  Not only are these laws discriminatory and unconstitutional, but they are also bad for our economy.

Here’s a simple way you can help whether you’re a texan or not!

Go Here and Read the article

Scroll down to the bottom of my page and click on this to send an email to the Texas legislators to oppose these horrible, homophobic and transphobic laws!

Lots of Love,

Alyssa

 

Dear Mr. President, Thank You

Over the past eight years I have enjoyed watching the Obama family. Today seven days before inauguration of our next President, and I am sad to see them go. They have received lots of hate and bigotry, but have returned it with love and compassion. I am not only sad because of who is taking over, but also because most Barack and Michelle have been very inspiring to me.

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I believe Barack Obama has been one of the most intelligent, articulate, and compassion Presidents this country has ever had. He has bettered our country. I truly believe that is an fact, and not an opinion. Our economy is better, millions of people now have health insurance that previously weren’t able to, he passed marriage equality, he took down Osama Bin Laden, and the list goes on. Even in his last days in office he has worked hard to make a change.

As a queer person I will never be able to thank him enough for legalizing marriage equality. Although things could change, his decision has changed my life forever, and I am eternally grateful. I will be able to achieve my goals of getting married and having kids, thanks to him. I am grateful my dad was able to find a job after he was laid off, and I’m grateful our economy has recovered enough for him to be able to do so. Eight years ago, that may have not been the case.

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First Lady Michelle Obama has been a role model for me. She showed the world what a strong and articulate woman looks like. Every time I hear her speak, I get inspired to make a change in the world. She has taken her role as the First Lady seriously and has touched many lives, including mine. She isn’t some trophy wife sitting around and spending her husbands money, she works hard, and has her own career.

Barack and Michelle have shown America what a good couple looks like. With 1 in 2 marriages ending in divorce, it was refreshing to see such a strong couple. They showed us what two people who are truly in love look like, and they showed us what good parent look like. I hope to one day have a relationship like the Obamas do, and I’m in love with my best friend. I’m sad children today will not be able to grow up seeing such a strong couple in the White House.

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I like how the Obamas can take a joke. Being in the lime light means every move you make is being examined under a microscope. They have continuously been on talk shows like Ellen, Jimmy Kimmel, Jimmy Fallon, etc. and are able to make fun of themselves. The Obamas laugh along, and don’t get butt-hurt when someone cracks a joke. They are able to be silly and fun, while still holding up a sense of professionalism.

So, Thank You Mr. President, and thank you First Lady. I will never forget the changes you made to this country, and how you’ve inspired me. As for the next four year, when they go low, we go high. 😉

Lots of Love and Gratitude,

Alyssa