My 2019 Goals

2018 was a crazy year for me. There were so many triumphs and heartaches that it feels difficult to remember them all. I’m sure many of you agree that this year has felt very long, especially if you are an American. 2018 brought a lot of change into my life, both good and bad, change is hard. 2019 already feels like it is going to bring me even more change, and hopefully with that will come more growth. Here are my 2019 Goals…

  1. Grades, Grades, Grades

When is this not a goal of mine? My education is so important to me; honestly maybe even a little too important. Next semester I’m taking 16 hours, which is more than I’ve ever taken before, and some of my classes are known for being really difficult. My goal for 2019 is to maintain my GPA, and get A’s in all of my classes.

2. Transfer… again

Oh dear reader, are you getting deja vu? This time last year I was working on applying to transfer from community college to a university, and this year I’m working on applying to a new university. It’s starting to seem like I just loving filling out that common application! I’m hoping to transfer to a different university that offers my intended major, as my current university does not. The school I’m looking at is quite difficult to get into and has been my dream school since I was a child. As much as I dread that thought of moving again, I’m really hoping I’m able to transfer again for the Fall semester.

3. Be more open

Outside of this blog, where I often share far too much, I am very closed off in real life. I play my cards close to my chest, and have learned to have quite a good poker face. I don’t offer up very much personal information when people ask, and honestly this makes it really hard to grow relationships with people. I want to be more open with people in my life, and new people I meet in 2019.

4. Read More

I did a decent job reading this year, but there are so many more books I’d love to read in the coming year. In 2019, I want to read 50 books, which may be quite the undertaking, but I think it is doable. (Stay tuned for a ‘what I read in 2018’ post).

5. Be more active on WordPress

This past semester definitely slowed down my posts, at times to a screeching halt, but I really want to be putting out more content. I also want to read for blogs, and interact with ya’ll more here on my blog!

Thank you for spending any amount of time this year reading Queerly Texan! I’ve thoroughly enjoyed each and every interaction I’ve had with ya’ll. Let me know what kind of posts you would like to see from me in 2019!

What are your 2019 goals?

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Pride Month 2018

June is LGBTQIA+ pride month, and just like last year, all of my posts this month will be LGBTQIA+ related!

Pride Month is a time to celebrate being a part of the LGBTQIA+ community, remember the history of our civil rights movements and celebrate our accomplishments, as well as organizing to continue to fight for the rights of LGBTQIA+ people everywhere. Many cities hold their pride parade this month as well as other events, but some places, like where I live, hold their events at different times throughout the year. Either way, June is a great time to celebrate being LGBTQIA+ and have fun!

I have a lot of ideas about the posts I’m going to do this month, but I’d love to hear what you want to see from me! I’m really excited for this month, and all the festivities that come along with it.

Happy Pride Everyone!

 

 

Merry Christmas 2017!

Merry Christmas!

I hope you all are enjoying the holiday festivities, and spending time with those you love. So far, I’ve had a great Christmas Eve. We spent the morning volunteering at a local soup kitchen, and then attend the candlelit service at our Church. The whole church filled with candlelight, while everyone sings Silent Night, is my favorite part of Christmas. In that moment, everything feels peaceful and all feels right in the world.

This time last year feels like a life time ago, yet I can’t believe 2017 is already coming to an end. I’m excited to enjoy the rest of my time off from school, continue my holiday celebrations, and see where 2018 takes me.

Lots of love to you and your family,

Alyssa

Happy Birthday Queerly Texan!

Today, December 12th, 2017 Queerly Texan turns one year old!

I can’t believe I’ve been blogging for a whole year now! When I started this blog last December, I thought I would post for a couple of weeks, maybe months and then stop. This community means so much more to me than I ever knew it could. Having a place to express the trials and tribulations that come with chronic illness has been very cathartic. I’ve also been able to write extensively about LGBTQIA+ rights, and other social justice causes which fills my heart with joy.

In the past year, I’ve posted/re-blogged over 150 posts, gained 275 followers, and have been able to have some amazing conversations with people all over the world. I’m looking forward to seeing where this blog goes, as well meeting new people and having many more conversations. I have never done a Q&A, so in honor of Queerly Texan’s birthday I thought I would do my first one! Feel free to ask me questions down in the comments about anything and everything, and I’ll answer them in a post soon.

Thank you so much for following Queerly Texan, liking, re-blogging, and commenting. I sincerely enjoy each and every comment, and I love talking with ya’ll. There have been many days that reading the comments has lifted my spirits. Here’s to many more years!

Thank you all,

Alyssa

 

Thanksgiving 2017

Happy Thanksgiving ya’ll!

This year I have a lot to be thankful for. I’m doing well in school, I have better doctors, and a great family. Thanksgiving last year I was feeling terrible, and had just dropped out of high school, now I’m going to college full time. My health issues are still present- I even had an endoscopy yesterday, but I feel like I’m beginning to get the help I need. Mental health wise I feel so much better. Last holiday season I was just going through the motions, and wasn’t truly enjoying any of it. I feel so incredibly lucky to be able to enjoy life and want to celebrate this year. I’m also thankful for the blogging community, especially since Queerly Texan is about to turn one year old!

I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving! Holidays can be incredibly hard when your struggling with chronic illness, mental health problems, or an unaccepting family. Be kind to yourself today. It’s okay to excuse yourself if you need a moment to recharge. Try not to stress out too much – the holidays are supposed to be a joyous time!

I hope ya’ll are all having a great Thanksgiving or just a great Thursday if you aren’t celebrating!

With love,

Alyssa

Turning 18

Today, November 17th is my 18th birthday!

I have so many mixed emotions about turning 18, but overall I’m excited about it! To me it feels weird that I’m only going to be eighteen, since I’ve felt like an adult for a long time now. My family always jokes that I’m “17 going on 37” since I often act much older than I am. Even as a child I wasn’t really interested in being a child, as weird as that sounds. Immediately not much is going to change. I’m not going to buy cigarettes or have to be financially responsible for myself. The only “new” thing I get to do is sign all of the forms at the doctor’s office lol.

I feel grateful to be eighteen, and grateful to be in the place I am in now. Although this past month and a half have been more rough than the Summer was, I’ve still been able to keep up with school and have a generally functional life.  This time last year I had just gotten out of the hospital and dropped out of high school, now I’m going to college full-time and getting better help with my health. It’s amazing what a year can do. I look forward to seeing how my life changes within this next year!

 

National Coming Out Day 2017

Happy National Coming Out Day!

For those who do not know, National Coming Out Day began on October 11th, 1987 when half a million people marched on Washington for LGBT Rights. Since that day, October 11th has been used to celebrate coming out and being out. Many people also use this day to come out for the very first time, or come out to a new person/group.

I remember when national coming out day came around while I was still in the closet. I felt a sense of urgency to do it that day, but got nervous and waited some more. National Coming Out Day is not supposed to pressure anyone to come out when they’re not ready, so if you’re in the closet and don’t feel ready – don’t come out today! This day did give me a little nudge to bite the bullet and tell my parents. I think it was beneficial to me to have national coming out day take place during the time I was deciding when to come out.

Part of me feels like we shouldn’t have to “come out” per se. We should be able to just start seeing someone, or have it come up in conversation. A big dramatic “let’s sit down and cry moment” isn’t always necessary or wanted. If that is your experience, there isn’t anything wrong with that, coming out to my parents was mildly dramatic, but if that’s not the experience you want then it doesn’t have to be that way.

For me, being out is liberating and incredibly important. I always try to be the “out person” that I needed when I was questioning my sexuality. Being out for me can also be very political, especially right now. Having out role models is crucial for people in the closet. It’s also really important for everyone else to see that LGBTQIA+ people are not some far off distant idea, but rather are your neighbors, friends, colleagues, and family members.

I hope everyone has an incredible National Coming Out Day, and is able to celebrate being LGBTQIA+!