September 10th, 2017 Meredith Hight and seven of her friends were shot and killed in her home by her husband who she was divorcing. She filed for divorce back in July and hadn’t seen him much since. This past month he came to pick up some of his things while Meredith was home. He saw how happy she was and how much she was thriving without him, which led him to murdering her and her friends.
While this particular news story has layers of conflict and multiple issues going on, the thing that really stands out to me is how he decided to kill her after seeing how happy she was without him. It became obvious to him that Meredith didn’t need him, and in fact was doing better on her own and that enraged him.
How dare she live a fulfilling life without a man by her side?
How dare she stand up for herself and speak out against his abuse?
Domestic violence is not the only way the misogyny kills. Systematically our health care in America constantly mistreats and under-diagnoses women’s health issues and belittles them. Rape culture and toxic gender roles can be another way misogyny kills.
In a lot of these situations the combination of hyper-aggressive men, due to toxic masculinity and gender roles, and misogyny is what leads to the actual murder of women. The hyper-aggressive side leads to men feeling angry, entitled to women’s bodies, and makes them controlling as well as manipulative. The misogyny adds to the outrage when women don’t behave according to their standards, and reinforces the feelings of dominance.
Misogyny is not just an inconvenience or something “man hating women” made up.
Misogyny is real and it claims the lives of too many women.
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