So tomorrow’s valentines day.
I personally don’t have any strong negative or positive feelings toward the 14th of February. I find it both funny and odd that people make such a big deal over one day. Lot’s of people in relationships make a huge fuss over it, and try to make valentines the “perfect day” chasing unneeded anxiety and stress. On the other hand about a week before the 14th, all my social media gets filled with single people complaining about how sad being single is and how they hope they get in a relationship before Valentine’s Day rolls around.
Can’t we all just go back to giving each other cards and decorating heart shaped cookies?
Coming from the point of view of a seventeen year old who’s never been in a relationship- I have no problem with being single. In fact I find it humorous that anyone my age would worry about being single. It’s not that I wouldn’t be interested in being in a relationship if I found someone I liked, I just don’t think it’s the most important thing in your teenage years – and definitely not in this chronically ill hell that is my “teenage years.”
My older sister is 22 and has only dated one person. It was a very short relationship and was long distance so they didn’t get to do much together after they started dating. She talks about “being forever alone” a lot and I always tell her “YOU”RE 22!” I find it funny that I’m the younger sister yet I’m often the voice of reason in our relationship. She goes to a university that puts a big emphasis on getting engaged before graduation. I don’t think there’s anything wrong necessarily with getting engaged at 22, but that’s so young and I don’t think it’s the best idea for most people. Over Christmas break six of her friends got engaged. Six. And I got to hear about it every single time, lucky me.
Everyone is on their own journey and there is no right or wrong time line to do things. Valentines day can still be fun if you’re single, because celebrating all kinds of love is important. While my inner pessimist doesn’t hate this day so much as to say “it’s a Hallmark holiday,” I do think unrealistic expectations are set by the media. Having a candle-lit dinner at home can be just as lovely as going out to nice restaurant. Your Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be life-changing and picture-perfect; a good memory or two should suffice. An expensive gift doesn’t needed to be bought, you’re time can be the gift to one another. There’s nothing wrong with nice dinners and expensive gifts, butt hey aren’t necessary to make great memories or have a good time.
Wishing you a Happy Valentine’s Day,